The Making of a Daddy

One of my friends told me she thought the baby was coming last Thursday.  All day, Andy asked me how I was “feeling”, and whether the baby was coming.  Well, no such luck (and still none!). 

Surprisingly, he doesn’t really seem nervous.  Last week on the way to my 37-week check-up, he said he wished the baby would just come that day.  He’s just so ready for our little man to be here!

With all the “advice” he’s been getting, I’m surprised he’s anything but dreading the baby getting here.  It seems like every father (and many mothers) have been telling him the same things.  Your life as you know it is over.  You’ll never get any sleep again.  Ready to be put on the back burner?  Your baby won’t seem like a blessing that first year.  You’ll never be able to do anything fun or spontaneous ever again.  Say good-bye to date nights and days golfing with your buddies.  Frankly, to both Andy and I, the negative “advice” is getting old.  I mean, we know all about the hard things about having a baby…can someone please start telling us the good?!

Somehow, though, it all seems vaguely familiar.  Remembering back, it was these same men who told Andy what a burden marriage would be, how he’d never get to do anything fun again, and how a wife would just nag him all the time.  Those comments got old too…and fast.  Ironically, none of those things they predicted came true.  Today, Andy would tell you that we enjoy a wonderful, fulfilling, and fun marriage.  Sure, marriage is a lot of responsibility and hard work…but it’s a much bigger blessing.

Even still, it’s amazing to see how excited he is for Baby B to be here.  It seems like every spare minute he spends fixing or making something, all for the sake of his sweet little boy.  He wants everything ready. 

What he doesn’t see, though, is how his heart is getting ready…and that’s the biggest blessing to me.  It seems like each day that passes, he falls more-and-more in love with the little man we have yet to meet.  I see his heart softening and his perseverance strengthening.  I am so thankful for a man who has no fear of smelly diapers or sleepless nights.  He doesn’t worry about never getting to do anything fun again, or being placed on the “back burner”.  Instead, he is incredibly thankful for this blessing due to arrive any day now. 

Yes, he knows that life will change.  He knows that parenthood will be full of work and frustration.  Yet, he also knows that it will be full of unspeakable blessings that far outweigh the bad.  Just like marriage, parenthood is all in how you see it.  There will always be hard times and trials, but will you choose to dwell on them and make mountains out of mole hills?  Or, will you choose to focus on the good? 

It’s a blessing to watch this transformation of my man into a daddy.  Becoming a daddy isn’t scary to him…because he chooses to embrace the good.

Why It’s Already Father’s Day

For Mother’s Day this year, I was a little surprised by people’s comments to me…being that I was pregnant.  About half of the people I saw said “Happy Mother’s Day”, and went on about how wonderful that it was my first mother’s day.  The other half made comments to the affect of “next year you’ll get to celebrate too”.
 
Frankly, it surprised me a little bit that they didn’t think I got to celebrate this year.  Apparently carrying a living, breathing child in your womb for nine months doesn’t quite make you a mother.  Thankfully, no one I’m terribly close to was of this opinion, or I would have been a bit offended.  My sweet man got me a card, flowers, and a very nice gift (from him and Baby B, of course), and my mom sent me a very nice card and gift…the same she sent to my sister whose girls were born in November.  My sisters were even sweet and sent me cards!

Now that Father’s Day has rolled around, I’m interested to see what the comments to Andy will be.  No, he’s not carrying our sweet boy around with him, but does that make him any less of a father…or this any less of his first Father’s Day?  Here are the reasons I’m celebrating my man today—and all the reasons he’s already the #1 dad:

Andy already works incredibly hard to support and provide for me and Baby B.  Lately he’s got even more careful about money and saving…all for our sweet little guy and me.

The majority of his days are spent preparing and thinking of Baby B.  Andy has a house reno list a mile long.  Somehow, his priorities have all become centered around a little bundle due to arrive in early August. 🙂 Top on his list is finishing the nursery.  Also, we’re carpeting our bedroom and the family room…all so little Baby B will have something soft to fall on.

He sacrifices so much for Baby B.  Andy’s already given up a lot for this baby.  He’s even selling his truck.  Trust me, if you knew him, that’s a really big deal.  Most of the time nowadays he’d rather plunk down money on something for the baby instead of something for himself.

He’s so excited and thankful for this little blessing.  I’m daily amazed by how joyful Andy is about this upcoming arrival.  He is so stinkin’ excited! 

He sees this baby as a blessing. One of Andy’s biggest goals when Baby Baker makes his arrival is to see him as a blessing instead of a burden.  It’s something he’s passionate about, and I’m right there with him.

He already loves this baby more than life itself.  It’s interesting to me how much you can love someone you’ve never even met.  In many ways, I have more of a connection to the baby because I’m carrying him around in me.  I feel is kicks constantly, and my belly swells and this little life grows.  Andy’s never had that experience…and yet he loves Baby B.  Like, incredibly much.  I know because he tells the baby so a lot. 🙂 I know he’d lay his own life down for this baby in a heartbeat.  To him, he’s already his baby…his son.  And, to me, he’s already a father.

Happy 1st Father’s Day to the greatest dad in the world…my husband.